A third space is a chosen place other than home or church where you will intentionally show God’s love to others in order to develop habits and a lifestyle of doing this wherever you go.
Having a third space allows us to invest in people where they’re at. It involves us operating under the authority and creativity of God in partnership with the Holy Spirit. The practice of intentionally pausing to see a space in the way that God does, allows us to show his love in ways that extend beyond our intuition and ideas. It joyfully gives God room to do his work, even when we don’t fully understand what he’s up to.
In this moment, we have a unique opportunity to focus our attention on people in our neighborhoods or people we interact with through social media, so for now, we’ll be highlighting ideas to connect with people in those spaces.
Ask God for creativity on how to engage your neighborhood and social media channels.
While in your space, intentionally pray…
- with someone in real time (in person or through media)
- that the Lord would give you opportunities to connect with others
- for your neighbors as you walk by their homes or your friends/followers as you scroll through social media
Commit to be active in your space regularly. Choose a rhythm that provides frequent opportunities to interact with others.
Set specific goals to…
- learn x neighbors’ names this month
- walk your neighborhood x times a week to pray for and/or engage your others
- reach out to x number of people individually from your third space this month
As you engage your third space, listen to God and intentionally show his love to others. Ask the Holy Spirit to lead you and show you what he is doing. Ask the Holy Spirit if there is anyone he wants to highlight. If he does, ask him what he would like you to do.
Ask intentional questions and listen…
- “What has been a high point and a low point for you this week?”
- “What are you experiencing in your home/family/workplace right now?”
- “How can I pray for you?”
- Keep listening, you can provide a safe space for others to share
Be proactive to serve others by…
- reaching out to neighbors to let them know you are available to help
- respond to the needs people share with you
- utilizing the Crisis Care resources on rockharbor.org for needs you are unable to personally meet
Ideas to Get You Started
It’s important to remember that when engaging in a third space, the primary goal is to have a conversation with God and act out of that. These resources and ideas are here to inspire you, but each step should always be surrounded in prayer and guided by the Holy Spirit.
Make some baked goods and fun treats for your family and your neighbors! Prepare a sweet treat for your neighbors and drop them off with a note letting them know you are thinking of them and that you care. Never underestimate the power of feel-good food to brighten someone’s day!
We each have our own easily accessible, unique platform thanks to the existence of social media. Write a grateful post to utilize your social media platform well! You can post a video or written post sharing what you are thankful during this season and help spread the positivity!
Game nights are not a thing of the past! Thanks to the unlimited technology around us, we still have the ability to connect and enjoy each other’s company, even if it is in admittedly different ways in the current world. Host a virtual/zoom game night for your neighborhood! This can be a great way to introduce yourself to your neighbors and just have a fun time being together virtually.
Sit down with your kids and color a picture for a neighbor or friend that encourages them during this season! Children naturally have a pure, confident faith that adults often have to strive for, and because of this, kids have a unique capacity for encouragement. Have a conversation with your child about what would make their neighbors smile, and help them write or decorate it on the sidewalk outside of your house.
- If you aren’t close with your neighbors or want to reach out and get to know them better, host a virtual get-to-know-you gathering with them!
- Host a virtual prayer night for your neighborhood.
- Host a virtual gathering for the neighborhood to discuss important current events.
- Attend or host a virtual cooking class or tutorial series with your neighbors and friends. Take turns teaching each other something fun or interesting!
- Driveway Dinner: To mix things up during quarantine and find a way to get to know your neighbors in an easy way, eat a meal in your front yard/driveway to greet people that walk by!
- Have your child create an encouraging chalk design and/or message in front of your house for your neighbors to read. Another option is to decorate a poster and display it on your front window. They are guaranteed to make someone’s day!
- To use social media as your Third Space, share about a way that God has met you during this time with your virtual community either through a written post or video. Share your heart and what you feel God is teaching you during this time — chances are, someone will be greatly encouraged by it!
- Prayer Sign: Place a sign in your yard or on your front window letting your neighbors know you are actively thinking about and praying for them.
- Prepare cinnamon rolls and OJ to share on a Saturday morning in your driveway
- Schedule a food truck to come to your street and pass out flyers to your neighbors inviting them
- Throw a socially distant driveway block party
- Have your kids make a bouquet of flowers while on your prayer walk. Then have them ask God who it needs to be delivered to
- Pray for your neighbors! Go on a walk by yourself or with your family to map out your neighborhood and become more familiar with it as you pray
- Phone a friend and reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in awhile or has been on your heart lately
- Delivery a goody bag to a friend or neighbor
- Set up a resource table for neighbors who might be in need of supplies
- Put a sign in your lawn to let your neighbors know you’re praying for them
- Set up a picnic in your yard to greet people who walk by
- Have food or coffee delivered to a friend or neighbor
- Set up a firepit at the end of your driveway as a place for conversation
- Project a movie or Rockharbor service on your garage door and invite neighbors
- Have kids color a picture or write a note to deliver to neighbors or classmates
- Download one of these phone backgrounds to use as a reminder: